Lessons in casual sex from The Unbearable Lightness of Being

Rob Gordon in High Fidelity claims  “Hey, I’m not the smartest guy in the world, but I’m certainly not the dumbest. I mean, I’ve read books like “The Unbearable Lightness of Being” and “Love in the Time of Cholera”, and I think I’ve understood them. They’re about girls, right?”

Whatever the expanse of philosophy or literature it is grossly anthropocentric. Good stories are about humans and relationships. For this reason The Unbearable Lightness of Being is one of my favourite books.

So these are the three things I learnt about casual sex or erotic friendships as they are called from the book:

1). “…the only relationship that can make both partners happy is one in which sentimentality has no place and neither partner makes a claim on the life and freedom of the other.”

2). “The important thing is to abide by the rule of threes. Either you see a woman three times in quick succession and then never again, or you maintain relations over the years but make sure that the rendezvous are at least three weeks apart.”

3). “…Making love with a woman and sleeping with a woman are two separate passions, not merely different but opposite.Love does not make itself felt in the desire for copulation (a desire that extends to an infinite number of women) but in the desire for shard sleep (a desire limited to one woman).

to be continued…


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